Pulling Your Own Strings: Dynamic Techniques for Dealing with Other People and Living Your Life As You ChooseHarper Collins, 1991 M05 23 - 288 pages This directed and practical book shows how to stop being manipulated by others and start taking charge of your own life. |
Contents
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Operating from Strength | 25 |
Refusing to Be Seduced by What Is Over or Cannot Be Changed | 49 |
Avoiding the Comparison Trap | 69 |
Becoming Quietly Effective and Not Expecting Them to Understand | 91 |
Teaching Others How You Want to Be Treated | 119 |
Never Place Loyalty to Institutions and Things Above Loyalty to Yourself | 147 |
Distinguishing Between Judgments and Reality | 177 |
Being Creatively Alive in Every Situation | 199 |
Victim or Victor? Your Present VictimProfile Based on 100 Typical Situations | 225 |
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Page 216 - Even if you're on the right track you'll get run over if you just sit there.
Page 41 - This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of Nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.
Page 20 - ... ^Simplicity, simplicity, simplicity ! I say, let your affairs be as two or three, and not a hundred or a thousand; instead of a million count half a dozen, and keep your accounts on your thumb nail.
Page 51 - I stand and look at them long and long. They do not sweat and whine about their condition, They do not lie awake in the dark and weep for their sins They do not make me sick discussing their duty to God, Not one is dissatisfied, not one is demented with the mania of owning things...
Page 55 - It is impossible that anything so natural, so necessary, and so universal as death, should ever have been designed by Providence as an evil to mankind.
Page 96 - This whole earth which we inhabit is but a point in space. How far apart, think you, dwell the two most distant inhabitants of yonder star, the breadth of whose disk cannot be appreciated by our instruments? Why should I feel lonely? Is not our planet in the Milky Way?
Page 72 - Whoso would be a man must be a nonconformist. He who would gather immortal palms must not be hindered by the name of goodness, but must explore if it be goodness. Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind.
Page 183 - It is true, I never assisted the sun materially in his rising, but, doubt not, it was of the last importance only to be present at it.
Page 75 - It is this, let me tell you — that the strongest man in the world is he who stands most alone.