How to Be an Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration

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Paulist Press, 1991 - 121 pages
Living life as a happy, mature adult does not always come easily to all of us. In this best-selling work, David Richo conveys to his readers just how to do this, based on his many years' experience as a psychotherapist and workshop leader. The author uses as a model the heroic journey whose three phases--departure, struggle, and return--explain what happens in us as we evolve from neurotic ego through healthy ego to the spiritual Self. Departure is explored by helping the reader deal with fear, anger, and guilt, and building self-esteem. Through struggle one learns to maintain boundaries and build intimacy in relationships. And the result is a return to wholeness and love through integration. This thoughtful, approachable work is filled with checklists, diagrams, and literary quotations for meditation, making this a book to read and digest a little at a time for best results. How to Be an Adult will guide readers on their positive journey from fear, through power, to love. +
 

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Simple, straightforward, not long-winded

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Contents

GROWING PAINS GROWING UP
11
ASSERTIVENESS SKILLS
22
FEAR CHALLENGE TO ADULTHOOD I
30
ANGER CHALLENGE TO ADULTHOOD II
36
GUILT CHALLENGE TO ADULTHOOD III
43
VALUES AND SELFESTEEM
48
DECLARATIONS OF A HEALTHY ADULTHOOD
51
Relationship Issues
55
ADULT LIVING IN RELATIONSHIPS
83
Integration
87
THE ART OF FLEXIBLE INTEGRATION
89
BEFRIENDING THE SHADOW
93
DREAMS AND DESTINY SEEING IN THE DARK
98
EGOSELF AXIS WHERE PSYCHOLOGY AND SPIRITUALITY MEET
105
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
110
AFFIRMATIONS
114

MAINTAINING PERSONAL BOUNDARIES IN RELATIONSHIPS
57
INTIMACY
65
SUGGESTED READING
120
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About the author (1991)

David Richo is a psychotherapist in private practice in Santa Barbara, CA. He earned his PhD in clinical psychology from Sierra University in Santa Monica. Dr. Richo has been a teacher at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur.

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